23 Dec Crisis of a 3-year-old child, what to do
Many mothers know about the crisis that occurs at the time of the transitional age – 13 years, but not everyone guesses why their three -year -old baby suddenly becomes obstinate and uncontrollable.
Three years is a critical age in the development of the child, the moment when the period of early childhood ends and a new stage begins – preschool age. Each child has a crisis in different ways, but there are a number of changes that are noticeable in all children.
Behavior at this age directly depends on the situation that develops around and how it perceives it. At this age, the child does not yet have enough knowledge and it is difficult for him to imagine how to change this situation.
The child learns to do a lot on his own, he has his own experience, he begins to understand that he can do something himself. It is with “I myself” that the crisis of three years begins.
What symptoms accompany this transition period?
First of all, it is negativity. The child tries to do everything against. For example: my son was very fond of drawing, but as soon as I took out plasticine to sit down and blind something with him, a negative reaction began. Why is this happening? Because this is not his initiative, but mom.
It was only worth pretending that I was not going to be modeling with him and switch to his affairs, as the child himself pulled by the hand and offered to wait. This happens because the child proves his right to decide that the case expresses the attitude to the surrounding reality.
The second symptom is obstinacy. It doesn’t matter to the child who he demonstrates her, he just refuses to perform ordinary actions, for example: wash his hands after eating or putting on a hat for a walk. The baby also has obstinacy, which can be brought to extreme. The child can demand any subject, even if he does not really need him. He just decided so and let it be so.
The self -westernity is also present and expressed can be very bright. The child tries to do everything independently, he opposes the plus to all the people who surround him provoking conflicts.
Jealousy can manifest itself to other children in the family, or to each parent separately. It’s just that during this period the child understands that he is not the center of the family, around whom everything is spinning, and that, it turns out, mom and dad are two different people, and not one whole who love not only him, but also each other. He begins to try to defend his territory for every parent.
Why is this happening?
A three -year -old child has personal neoplasms. He begins to realize himself not as “we”, but as “I”, one, a whole with his rights. At the same time, its self -esteem begins to actively form.
The crisis can flow gently, without special excesses, in some situations, quite strong emotional bursts of the baby can be observed.
What to do?
React to the child’s tantrums calmly. This will help him calm down. If in response you will increase the voice, then the baby will understand how you can get out of your yourself.
No need to prove your superiority by force with its obstinacy. Be wiser, switch the child’s attention to something else, you can wrap everything with a joke. With his actions, the child probes your weaknesses, as well as learn to contact the outside world. On whom to study if Mom is more likely nearby? He learns to understand what is possible and what is not, because before he was allowed more.
Do not punish and do not scold the child on trifles do not need to punish the child due to a spoiled toy or a stained tablecloth. Patience and soft attitude – the key to success. Try to calmly explain to him what he did wrong. He must understand that the bad is not he, but his act.
Give the right to choose allow the child to do something on your own. It can be a simple cleaning in his room, let the cm wrap the table or fold the toys as he wants. Give the right to choose. For example: my son did not want to wear in the morning what I got him. But it was only worth putting two T -shirts and two tights, as he himself chose and the collection process took place without a scandal.
The crisis of three years is a normal stage in the development of the child. In order for him to go softer, pay him more attention so that the child feels that they love him. The only way